How to Get Your Bartender’s Attention Without Being a Jerk

How to Get Your Bartender’s Attention Without Being a Jerk

Bars aren’t libraries. But they’re not the Wild West either.

Somewhere between yelling and waving cash like you’re landing a plane is the sweet spot.

Here’s how to get served faster without earning a reputation.

First, show up ready.

Know your order before you open your mouth. Nothing slows the line like a guy discovering bourbon for the first time while five people wait behind him.

Second, make eye contact.

Real eye contact. Not the frantic head bob. Not the finger snap. Just look up, nod once, and wait. Bartenders notice calm confidence faster than chaos.

Third, use your body language wisely.

Stand at the bar. Don’t hover behind people like a raccoon waiting for scraps. A clear spot at the rail says, “I’m next.” Leaning back says, “I can wait.”

Fourth, tip early if it’s busy.

This isn’t bribery. It’s economics. A solid first tip tells the bartender you understand how the system works. In return, you become familiar, not forgotten.

Fifth, don’t shout the brand.

This isn’t an auction. A quiet “When you get a second” goes a lot further than yelling “BULLEIT” like it’s a distress signal.

And finally, remember this. Bartenders control your night.

Be patient. Be polite. Be clear.

Order clean. Tip fair. Act like you’ve been here before.